On controlling criticism – “If you point out the shortcomings of others lovingly, …it is all right.”
Source: AvatarMeher.org, AMB Hyderabad Center
If you do not get angry, you are a stone. If you get angry and cannot control it, you are an animal. If you get angry and can control it you are an angel, a saint! It is going against one’s nature and habit that helps. Not getting angry will not help. You must not express it! Impotence is no help.
Innocent and fair criticism does not hurt and is good, but it is quite rare. What I mean by talking ill of others is when you criticize and it hurts; it hurts when you criticize excitedly, out of anger. When you criticize with love and kindness, how can it hurt?
Any remark or criticism that does not hurt is good. Make fun, joke, humor, but don’t hurt anyone and talk back. If you point out the shortcomings of others lovingly, without any feeling of hate or animosity, it is all right. Even arguing with love is permitted. Try your utmost to help me, which you can do by acting according to my wish. Sacrifice your sweet habit of hurting others.
-www.lordmeher.org , p2132
Jul, 1940; Meherabad